THE DISASTER REPORT

 THE DISASTER REPORT 

Whenever you are worried about something, fill out a "Disaster Report" on the situation. This will destroy your fear and worry almost instantly. This is often called the "Worry Buster." The disaster report have four parts;

● First, Define the worry situation clearly. What exactly are you worried about?  Very often, when you take the time to be completely clear about the worry situation, a way to resolve the situation becomes immediately evident. 

● Second, Identify the worst possible thing that could posibly Happen. If this worry situation where to take place. Would you lose your job ? Would you lose your relationship would you lose your money ? What is the worst thing that could posibly happen ? Be clear about this. In many cases, you will see that should the worst occur, it will not ruin you. It might be inconvenient or uncomfortable, but you would eventually recover. You will find that it's probably not worth all the worry to you are devoting to it. 

● Third, Resolve to accept the worst possible outcome. Should it occur. Say to yourself, "Well, if that happens, it won't kill me. I will find a way to get along." Most of the stress of worry comes from denial, from not being willing to face the word possible thing that could happen. But once you have resolved to accept the worst (should it occur), all the worry and stress seem to disappear. 

● Fouth, Begin immediately to improve on the worst. Take every step that you posibly can to make sure that the worst possible outcome does not occur. Take action immediately.  Do something. Get on with it. Act quickly. Get so busy making sure that the worst thing does not happen that you have no time to worry. 

                    Culled from the power of self discipline by BRIAN TRACY

MANAGE YOUR ANGER

                        MANAGE YOUR ANGER

Anger is one of the major problem affecting humanity in particular. It determines your way of living, the way you manage your home, leadership, business career and friends determines your success in life. 

Manage your anger, don't let it manage you. Even the bible said, don't let the sun goes down on your anger. Moses did not get to promise land because of anger. Cain is another examples, he killed Abel because of anger and what was his reward (Genesis 4:8). Don't let it be your master (Genesis 4:7). It could be from childhood, which you were unable to control till adulthood, it becomes more furious and dangerous as you grow on daily basi. A seconds of anger can ruin your future and what you have build for years. Anger causes a lot of damages in life, desire from it no matter the difficulties. How do you mange your home, lead, business career and makes friends when you can't tolerate. Non-tolerance lead to anger.

●THE WAY YOU MANAGE YOUR HOME

Anger can destroy the foundation of Marriage. A person who cannot controls his anger, cannot have a peaceful home. How you react to things matters a lot in a family. A person who is planing to marry most first of all manage his anger by learning to tolerate.

They are a lot I broken homes today because we don't know how to react to things, how to tolerate. We allow anger to manage us instead of us to manage it. We react to little things that happens around us with anger. Anger is an enemy of progress. "Is not good for you".

●LEADEESHIP

If you can't tolerate, what are you leading ?. What are you teaching if you can't tolerate your student or pupil ? Leadership requires a lot of patience and sacrifice. Just know that, when you ocupy a leadership position, the world is watching you. So do away with you anger.  Ask God for help. 

●BUSINESS CAREER

Anger can cause a lot of havoc in business life, some customers are silly and frustrating. They didn't think before they speak and it is your duty as a business man/woman to calm him/her down even when abusing you. Anger can't settle that. Loosing one customers, is loosing millions of them you didn't know about. Anger affect you negatively, bringing you down slowly because you were unable to control it. A person who knows the value of a customer must learn to tolerate them, which is one of quality you must posses before going into business. Business world is not easy, they are mad customers. Company staffs resigns because of their bosses that can tolerate them, affecting the growth of company negatively. 

●FRIENDSHIP 

Someone who can't tolerate cannot makes or keeps friends. Friends influences society thereby making them very important. If you cannot makes friends, you can't be happy in life. Friends is not all about getting to know a stranger, start from your home, you can start with your parents and siblings to enable a better communications. Where they is communication, they is understanding, you get advices as well. A stranger can't stop you on the road start giving you advices when he don't know you.      

THE FEAR OF FAILURE

Fear; is a mental health disorder characterise by feelings of worry, anxiety or fear that are strong enough to interferes with one's daily activities.

The fear of rejection or call reluctance, seems to be bundled together with the fear of public speaking. Until the day you admit that rejection is not denial, is not  a NO for life, you can never overcome your fears. The fear of what if i fail, is the reason we are still subject to fear. 

When we are at a tender age, we create unimaginable images within our mind in the dark because of fear, almost all of us is a victim to this. Take a deep breath and say to yourself. If i failed, get no for an answer. I still have a second chance. 

Approach your fears with courage, it only when you refuse to try that makes you failed, rejection, denial and no is not failure. When you are disappointed, rejected, get back to your sit and begin to think of errors, reasons that get you NO. What are the things you said, do that you shouldn't have done nor say them, try to figure it out your errors and mistakes. Then go for a second time, never give up. You will be a success soon. Learn from your mistakes when people say no to you, it's a lesson, and lessons are the best teacher. 

When you discipline yourself to to learn and ask questions, learn to speak confidently on your feet, your fears of rejection disappears as well. Your level of self confidence in all your interaction with others increases dramatically, your whole life changes in a positive way. 

When i think about the root causes of so many mistakes and spiritual pitfalls in my life, the source seems to be the one and only, the ugly, fear. Fear will cause us to buckle and settle for less than God's best. It will cause to disobey after diluting our trust in him, and even when do stay strong, it will robb us of our peace and joy. 

Fear gives nothing than sorrows, setbacks because you refuse to try after you failed once. Anybody that is afraid of failing cannot succeed in life. 

                    CONFRONT YOUR FEARS

"Your ability to confront, deal with, and act in spite of your fears is the key to happiness and success. One of the best exercise you can practice is to identify a person or situation in your life of which you are afraid and resolve to deal with that fear situation immediately. Do not allow it to make you unhappy for another minute. Resolve to confront the situation or person and put the fear behind you".

                                                    Brian Tracy

He will never leave nor forsake you (deut 31:8) when you are fearing a situation or emotional challenge, really envision God saying this, just to you. He is on your side - No matter who leaves after promising forever. When friends, family members or co-workers disappoint you, he will never turn on you. (Romans 8:28) 

So much fear is based on the wrong assumption than when we have made a mess of a situation. It's too late for God's help !! Says who ? (Isaiah 43:1) God actually commands us not to fear, or worry. The phrase "Fear not" is used most likely because, he (God) knows the uses fear to decrease our hope and limit our victories. 

God understands fear is natural. But whatever you are fearing - a health crisis, family problem, financial struggle - focus on the power of God who calls you by name,  and commands fear to flee from your heart. 

(John 4:18) "perfect love caste out all fears". When faced with even the deepest crippling of fear, we need to trust God with the confidence a child ascribes to a loving parents. The key is abiding in that love, on a daily basis, it has to be more than a biblical truth in our lives. We need to experience it continually.

       "When you identify a fear and discipline yourself to move toward it, it grows smaller and more manageable. What's more, as your fears grow smaller, your confidence grows. Soon, your fears lose their control over you. In contrast, when you back away from a fear-inducing situation or person, your fear grows larger and larger. Soon it dominates your thinking and feeling, preoccupies you during the day, and often keeps you awake at night".

                                                    Brian Tracy

The Lord is my rock (psalm 18:2) speaks those words over the cause of your fear. God is our abiding place. 

          Fear has no place in the heart or mind of a believer. Ask God to increase your trust and faith in his willingness and ability to deliver you completely from fear and anxiety. Ask for a deeper revelation of his love, and watch how powerfully he moves. 

                                      ©️ADOGA MOSES

THINK WISELY BEFORE YOU TOOK A STEP

What you did 10years ago, is it affecting your life negatively or positively today. If you insist of 5-10 minutes pleasure today without looking or considering the future, believe me, you are rubbing the future. Invest in future is better than taking today's pleasure. 

Are they things you did 10years ago, you regretted ever doing today ? 

Are they risk you were supposed to take 10years, 5years ago that would have affect your life positively today that you didn't take ? 

This is the time to learn from the past. when you learn from mistakes, you turn it into success. But when you refuse to learn from mistakes, you goes on living with pains and regrets. 

Life is not fair to anyone, don't depend on it, don't expect from it. You take from it. And who you become tomorrow is as a result of what you are doing today. Look at your life, is the life you are living, meaningful ? Is it contributing positively to the society ?

The fear of failure has making many of us fail. If you never failed, that is because you never tried. Do you like how you are living now, is they something you needed to do to change your present condition ? It is time for you to make a decision of how you want your future and that of your unborn children.  I'm not born with a silver spoon, you might not as well. They is a popular saying that, it is the fault of our parents that we were born poor. Even though i agree with you. You need to know one thing. It is your fault if you die poor. The blames you are putting on your parents today, your children will one day put that on you. They will ask you questions.

      Think about the present administration that keeps blaming past administrations today. They sit on that and give excuses, that is inability to perform their duty. Didn't you ask them question. Forget about the past and think about the future.

         

Adoga M Ogah